Instead of litigating, you can choose the wise solution for you and your future with DIVORCE MEDIATION.
Divorce mediation is about you and your soon to be ex-spouse deciding your own divorce and what is best for the both of you and most importantly ,your children.
In mediation, you and your spouse meet with a neutral third party,the mediator,and with their help ,you work through the issues you need to resolve ,so the two of you can end your marriage as amicably and cost effective as possible.
The issues covered in divorce mediation include but are not limited to the following:
- Division of Assets and Liabilities
- Care of the children (previously called Custody)
- Contact with the child (previously called Accsess)
- Contribution for children etc (previously called Maintenance)
In mediation, the couple with the help of the mediator works out agreements on the above issues.
When there is a differing of opinion between the spouses, and agreements are harder to reach then that is when the mediator intervenes .It is the mediators job to keep the lines of communication open, brainstorm ideas, reality test the couple and help them keep focused on the issues at hand.
Mediation gives couples who are separating/divorcing the following advantages over litigating;
- COST – The Mediation process generally takes much less time than moving a case through standard legal channels. Because both parties are working with the same base of information ,it usually takes far less time to negotiate a resolution that makes sense to both parties. Therefore taking less time to reach resolutions means expending less money on hourly fees and costs.
- WIN/WIN SITUATION – Keep in mind ,litigated cases lead to more anger and frustration between the divorcing parties.Not many people walk away from a litigated divorce feeling peaceful. On the other-hand , couples who have gone through mediation felt satisfied with the agreements they had reached and both walked away feeling that they had gotten what they had wanted.
- CONTROL – Mediation thus increases the control the parties have over their lives. In a court case ,the parties obtain a resolution but control resides with a judge .Who would you rather have decide what happens with your children and assets after a divorce? Who knows more about you ,attorneys ,judges or you? With Mediation you are given the opportunity to remain in control.
- FLEXIBILITY AND CONFIDENTIALITY- Mediation gives you and your partner a way to settle the conflict in a way that helps you work together as parents. This is extremely important if you have children and must interact with your ex-spouse after you are divorced .Mediation brings about communication between the couple, which can then be used when they must discuss issues pertaining to the children. Further it allows parents to explore flexible/creative solutions with regard to issues relating to the children within the realm of the law.The needs of the children remain paramount and it is always important to remember that parents divorce one another and NOT their children. Mediation provides a confidential forum so parties can feel safe to disclose information and put various options on the table in order to reach joint solutions. It is held in the mediators office which in itself is not a court room which is a public domain ,where anyone can attend.
- NEUTRALITY OF THE MEDIATOR-The Mediator works in a forum of absolute fairness, and looks towards assisting both parties in an unbiased and non judgemental manner. The Mediator does not act as judge or make decisions. The Mediator assists you to discuss relevant issues and to help you to negotiate choices in order to reach joint decisions.